Woman tormented by husband for years finally leaves houseFar away from the hot topic of gender equality voiced across the globe, many Nepali villages are still plagued by social, humanitarian and cultural discrimination against women.
Far away from the hot topic of gender equality voiced across the globe, many Nepali villages are still plagued by social, humanitarian and cultural discrimination against women.
Recently, a horrible story of hardships faced by a woman in Bitthadchir Rural Municipality-1 in Nepal’s far-west Bajhang district has come into light. Nirmala Bohara, 27, after suffering severe torture from her husband and family members for years left her house along with her two sons aged six and four.
Nirmala shared that she had to leave her house after torture became unbearable and life threatening to herself and her two sons.
“My husband married another woman after our second son was born,” she said, “He started beating me from the very first day of his second marriage coercing me to leave the house.”
Bohara said that she continued living with her husband for seven years of his second marriage enduring extreme torment as she had no means to sustain her life independently.
“I have no words to describe how much torture I received from my husband. I even lost an eye from his beatings,” recounted Bohara in a very painful voice, “My in-laws, including the second wife, too hit me regularly.”
Nirmala looks too old for her age for all the sufferings she has endured in her life. She recalled how her husband, under the influence of alcohol, threw away their youngest son into a river last September after she did not pay heed to his repeated threats to leave the house. Thanks to a local shopkeeper who saved her son!
Following this terrifying incident, Nirmala finally decided to relieve herself from her husband’s torture.
One night Nirmala left for her parental house situated in neigbouring Bajura district. But, this did not come easy for her as she got lost in the dense jungles of Basthal and Naulaban in Masta Rural Municipality for four days.
Along with two small sons, Nirmala faced a near-to-death experience in the jungle located at 3500 metres above the sea level. The extreme cold and hunger rendered the three in sub-conscious state.
Luckily, a local sheep herder Surendra Singh of Kailash Village in Jaya Prithvi Municipality found the trio and rescued them.
“I found three people laying like a wood in the jungle. Hit hard by rain, battered by cold and weakened by the hunger, their lips had turned black when I found them,” said Singh, adding, “At first, I thought they were dead. But Nirmala opened her eye and asked for water when I touched her. Miraculously, the children too were alive.”
The sheep herder said he took care of the trio for two days and then saw them off to nearby settlement.
Nirmala and her sons are now under the shelter of Dhwoj Bahadur Dwal, a local of Ranada village in Masta Village Council.
Nirmala was married to Gambhir Bohara of Lim Village in Bajhang district when she was 15-year-old. Her marriage took place in India when she was there with her father.
Nirmala remembers that her parental house lies in Martadi Village of Bajura. But, according to Nirmala, she has never met her parents after marriage. She has never been in touch with them and doesn’t know whether they are still alive or dead.
Nirmala, who can’t read and write, has no idea of basic legal remedies for domestic violence. She said none neighbours came to rescue her miserable life despite knowing all her sufferings, calling it her own personal matter.
Bitthadchir Rural Municipality Chairman Prem Bahadur Bohara said he has no knowledge of Nirmala’s husband [Gambhir] tying knot with another girl. He said he was unknown to Nirmala’s plight as his house is in a faraway village.
“If Nirmala’s story is true and she has suffered all these violence from her husband, I will take initiation for action against her husband and provide her justice,” said Chairman Bohara.